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Not even 24<\/span> hours after dating app<\/a> Bumble announced<\/a> it was getting rid of its trademark feature that requires women to make the first move, Robin H.\u2019s inbox was already attracting unwanted attention.<\/p>\n

\u201cThis guy responded to my prompt, and he wasn\u2019t a person I would have swiped on. I can\u2019t believe some of these men think we\u2019re a match,\u201d the 53-year-old social worker in Orlando, Florida, tells WIRED. \u201cMen will swipe on anybody and see what sticks. And with this change, they are just going to be reaching out to everybody.\u201d (Citing privacy concerns, Robin asked that WIRED not publish her full last name.)<\/p>\n

Bumble, which hit the market in December 2014, staked its brand on challenging traditional heterosexual dating dynamics. \u201cWhitney Wolfe Is Bringing Feminism to Your Phone,\u201d an Austin Woman<\/a> headline exclaimed less than two years after launch. But the app\u2019s sudden reversal last week suggests its women-first positioning has become a liability to the company\u2019s sustainability.<\/p>\n

Bumble\u2019s policy update\u2014which includes giving matches 72 hours to respond; previously it was 24\u2014comes as Big Dating\u2019s growth is lagging. Perhaps hinting at what was to come, in May, Bumble CEO Whitney Wolfe-Herd said in an interview with Axios that niche apps aren\u2019t built for real longevity<\/a>. The dilemma is emblematic of the volatility in the current dating market, where declining engagement and the introduction of AI are forcing companies to rethink how they should best appeal to singles.<\/p>\n

These problems aren\u2019t unique to Bumble. Match Group\u2019s August 2026 results<\/a> showed Tinder\u2019s number of daily active users is down 4 percent from the previous year, while Hinge\u2019s global monthly active users rose 13 percent during the same period. But even apps with sustained engagement struggle with brand perception issues.<\/p>\n

Feeld, a niche kink app that championed polyamory and BDSM in its early days, has shifted its focus to attracting more vanilla users, resulting in a 200 percent spike in users in 2025, though people have described the new vibe as \u201cnormie hell<\/a>.\u201d<\/p>\n

Likewise, Grindr has positioned itself as more than an app for hookups, expanding into a \u201cgayborhood\u201d that offers luxury travel experiences, medical prescriptions for GLP-1s and erectile dysfunction pills, musical artist activations<\/a>, and AI matchmaking. To turn a profit<\/a>, Grindr has essentially transformed into a digital gated community that now charges members $500 to hook up through its newest membership tier, Edge, while users who opt out are forced to navigate a platform drowning in ads and bots.<\/p>\n

Bumble, which is privately owned and reportedly exploring a sale<\/a>, has taken a similar route: transforming a once-niche product into a for-everybody service that pay-gates basic features. The move has not settled well with users online, who have renamed it \u201cYellow Tinder<\/a>\u201d\u2014a reference to the color of its logo\u2014and complained that the changes will encourage harassment. \u201cI\u2019m not going to use an app that makes me feel like prey,\u201d one user wrote on X<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe change obviously goes against their whole thing,\u201d says Emily Spence, a 28-year-old events producer in New York City who has used Bumble since 2015. \u201cBut the requirement for women to message first didn\u2019t really prevent creeps from messaging you. Just because you say \u2018hey\u2019 first doesn\u2019t mean a man isn\u2019t gonna send you something crazy after. It was kind of like a false sense of protection.\u201d<\/p>\n

The new update may also reflect a desire for a return to more traditional courtship roles. In the announcement<\/a>, the company noted that 66 percent of women surveyed on Bumble said they prefer men to send the first message, adding that it alleviates unnecessary pressure from the experience.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n


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